Comments on: Gold Star Cop Out

By: --Deb

--Deb — Thu, 01 Oct 2009 21:22:05 +0000

Don’t get me wrong–I think praise is important for kids. Encouragement to grow, to learn, to gain confidence–all good things. But they also need to learn how to fail once in a while. If you always win at everything, are never “wrong,” adulthood is going to be very, very hard to handle! (grin)
–Deb´s last blog ..Gold Star Cop Out

By: Michaele

Michaele — Thu, 01 Oct 2009 21:14:04 +0000

With a kid in college, one in high school and one in junior high, I am proud to say that their schools are not in the “new” categoy where there are no longer any wrong answers because “if a child knew he got the answer wrong, he would feel bad.” Yes, but he would learn! The Gold Star thing is true to a point…my kids did receive a lot of praise, but only when they legitimately earned it.

By: Julie

Julie — Mon, 28 Sep 2009 12:32:14 +0000

That’s freaking hilarious to see on CNN. Yes, too many idiots out there think they are the gift to the world. Sick.
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By: --Deb

--Deb — Fri, 25 Sep 2009 18:55:20 +0000

Kate, I entirely disagree. Politics aside, there is a time and place for expressing dissenting opinions and that is not one of them. It doesn’t matter if the president speaking is President Obama, President Bush, President Nixon, or President Washington … calling out in that time and place was nothing other than rude.

In my mind, boorish behavior is, if anything, going to turn me against the argument of the ill-behaved person, rather than against the victim of the rudeness. Did Kanye West’s outburst make me feel any more inclined to believe Beyonce was gypped or Taylor Swift unjustly rewarded? Not in the least–it just made me think that he knows less about, well, everything than I thought he did.

Rudeness reflects back on the mannerless person, no matter how just or unjust their reason for rudeness. That’s the way it should be.
–Deb´s last blog ..Gold Star Cop Out

By: Kate

Kate — Fri, 25 Sep 2009 18:42:19 +0000

Lots of people calling Joe Wilson rude these days. But I’d rather have Joe Wilson be rude to a liar than have the liar get away with it. And make no mistake, the president is a liar, and the sooner a liar is challenged, the better. Civility, in this case, be damned.

By: --Deb

--Deb — Thu, 24 Sep 2009 22:36:29 +0000

It seems to me that all children are born egotists. (“Look at me, Mom! Look at me! Are you watching?”) It’s as you grow that you learn to think about other people (“Let your friend have the big half”), to think about their feelings, to realize that they are (almost) as important as you. It’s a learning process. I don’t think many people are born considerate … but it’s certainly true that it comes more easily to some people than to others, just like the flipside of ongoing egotism comes more easily to some. That doesn’t make it any less annoying, though! (grin)
–Deb´s last blog ..Gold Star Cop Out

By: Melissa Donovan

Melissa Donovan — Thu, 24 Sep 2009 21:38:29 +0000

@Kelvin, Love that quote!

@Deb, I have known a few such persons in my life and their attitude just baffles me. I’m not even sure it always comes from the way they were raised. Just look at various (evil) world leaders throughout history, men who wanted to rule the rule the world and thought (for some reason) that they were entitled to do just that. I think this kind of thinking goes way back. I find it disturbing, but on the other hand, it’s great fodder for creating characters. Hehee.
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By: Shi

Shi — Thu, 24 Sep 2009 12:55:28 +0000

Can blog be this neat? I never thought so. Loved to be here.
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By: Mary Brown

Mary Brown — Thu, 24 Sep 2009 05:41:28 +0000

They are indicative of the same problem. A celeb isn’t any more important than anyone else, particularly. Whether they got that status by years of hard work or one lucky break (almost never happens, btw) the same rules apply to everyone in traffic and in manners and ethics. With actions come reactions, and consequences follow all choices, good, bad or neutral.
If people didn’t make such a big deal out of some people, whether they’ve earned that esteem or not, maybe they wouldn’t be so prone to think they are more special than the rest of us.

By: Kelvin Kao

Kelvin Kao — Wed, 23 Sep 2009 23:33:06 +0000

I forgot who said it, but I love the quote “You are special, just like everybody else.”

These are not entirely the same problems, though. What you called DIPs just feel that sense of entitlement for some reason, while there are at least for reasons for the celebrities to feel like they are more important than other people. Of course, it doesn’t mean they should be rude.

There are always going to be people like that, but let’s hope they are not representative of the population.
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